Yeah, and I think the physical feelings of envy can be really similar to sadness. Also, emotions can coexist--I identify the feeling as envy in myself because I feel excluded from romantic connection even though I currently have a wonderful partner with whom I intend to spend the rest of my life. It's like I feel like I'm not allowed to have it, and it won't work for me so when I see people for whom things have apparently worked out I immediately compare myself to them and insist on concluding that I come up short.

That's how I break the experience down in myself, I do feel sadness when others succeed and I think that's why. Cuz I have a long way to go to a life worth living and it's tempting to compare myself to others and then judge myself and conclude I am doomed, but I think in me the origin feeling is envy.

I'm not comfortable saying that but hey that's part of what I'm learning how to do in DBT, and besides the value of my response is in the feelings so I guess I'll just stop rambling and post