Feeling betrayed and confused

The hard truth is that if you have such intense traumas that are still heavily influencing you to feel paranoid and distrust for your partners then you arent ready for a healthy relationship.

Now of course it's not my job to tell you what to do, and very few people will tell you this because it's often met with extreme opposition. But that's the truth, you cant have a healthy relationship until you have a healthy relationship with yourself.

I acknowledge you are clearly trying and making progress, but from your own words it sounds like have a lot of work to do before you get to a place where you are emotionally stable enough to be managing relationships like this.

Again, not telling you what to do, just an observation.

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