My SO and I are COMPLETE OPPOSITES, and its odd bc we almost go through stages where ok I was the one when we 1st got together ( we were me 18 him 17) I was the more lets go out lets have fun , he was chill , laid back stoner dude who watched sports . I'm out twenties ( and a kid when i was 20) he started being the social butterfly ( but like with others like always making small talk with strangers and knowing the whole neighborhood) and I was the less social one, I keep myself with regards to neighbors and mind my own while he made that hard dor me . My sex drive went down as his was rocketed and we were young so that doesn't help .

We don't like the same music, movies , hobbies, and he is a 24/7 weed lover and im the sober fool who gets hives from it and cant smoke , never been my thing but weed doesn't bother me . It has always been in our 16 yrs together that I am the one who makes plans and vacations for us or we would never do anything together out of the house . As we have aged together our likes and dislikes as adults continue to evolve and change but we still never seem to sync to each other's, we dont even like the same football team and have diff political views , parenting views, financial behavior , unless COMPLETE DIFFERENCE. In communication ( or lack there of in his case) I'm emotional and he is always. The one who " is fine " even when I know he isn't but he does not talk about that stuff , or anything .

My point is we work , somehow someway this has worked for us . we adapted to accept who the other was and learned naturally to have strengths where the other lacks and the things we can't make all together much improved ( communication) we at least accept its just how it may be and its who that person is and that's not anything to do with not caring or bc of me .

If course we have arguments , and face human issues and difficulties , obviously we got together young ( I am 35 now ) and yea there still things he does that pisses me off making me question our future in those times. Past issues that still hurt all these yrs later , but I think that's important to bc im like do i love him ,, yea.. And does he act and say like he still loves me?,, well yea he still here dealing with my crazy ass ....

I thibk of him and I were not opposites we wouldn't work. Together so well after this many yrs as a couple . yea in the begining common interests are important bc that's how You connect and spent time and feel more connected without issues of no common ground to want to continue to connect . I feel now in the all and all its actually been beneficial abd worked for us specifically , and I think it could be that way for some other couples , just depends how much it bothers you long term I guess . hope this helps .