Full credit to you for sticking with the other half and digging in while hes unwell AND you have your own stuff going on.

I had (still have) a major back injury that forced me off work for a few years, my ex despised working but faked being supportive just long enough to get a kid out of me and use up our savings, then wake up one day to "find her identity" (money got low and couldn't buy her a house any time soon) and took off hours away with our then 6 month old. threw me under the bus for everything and devastated our little family beyond words, it still sickens me to this day how horrible she was and how happily and easily that was/is for her.

I know its tiring but i can promise you the kids and other half are incredibly grateful. Being a stubborn bloke myself we just tend to get tunnel vision on the thing that's stopping us from being the breadwinner and don't think to give time to the smaller things because, well, they seem like they are doing ok.

Hope you guys find a way thru it together.

Proper injury rehab and pain management is one of the most important things he can do, and AVOID meds. They scrambled my brain and my ex took full advantage of that at the time.