throwaway... I was about to make a very similar post, but I wanted to see how many similar posts were up here... I don't get it either. I can usually identify my flaws and even draw up a plan to overcome (that I know would work for me) but I can't drag my own ass enough to see it through - MOST OF THE TIME.
I can only speak for myself, but I think the secret to victory may be in very small incremental changes that we can make habit. In my most clear headed state I can see my own weaknesses and formulate a logical plan to overcome it. I will set alarms, make lists and itineraries, but when the moment comes I always have an excuse or rationalization why I should make an exception. Then I look back, notice the same weaknesses and fall into the pattern of self loathing.
BUT! As I'm typing this out, I'm thinking back on the areas where I've grown, and (outside of traumatic events) progress has always come in very small steps. Specifically when a positive behavior is repeated enough to become familiar and comfortable and accepted as my default inclination. Very easy to say, but how can we find the will to redirect our daily energy?
I want this answer too... but I think it may have to do with accountability because I usually get motivated the most when I'm being scrutinized by people I respect. But this also causes me major anxiety because I know what I CAN do, but then I hate myself when I don't live up to my own or (my idea of) others' expectations.
Here's my armchair diagnosis for myself:
Surround yourself with people you respect, but who are forgiving/understanding/merciful.
Take risks and fail. The mountain might not seem so tall on the 2nd go around, and the situation is more familiar
Muster the strength whenever possible to DO THE THINGS! The more I force myself to do the things I know I should be doing, the easier and more familiar it gets to do them. Find some way to enjoy the task. It's usually not hard at all, but getting started is. DO IT.
Respect yourself enough to know you are growing, even if it isn't sudden or drastic. Hopefully one day it will be automatic, but we might only be able to see it in hindsight.
It helped to write these things out. Maybe we can grow a lot by helping others, even if we're struggling ourselves.