Well first off, lets stop gendering rage. That's both patriarchal thinking and you know...totally wrong. I dunno where this comes from. We have a whole saying "No wrath like a woman scorned.." so why is rage sudden testosterone based?

Second off, I think for a lot of us this is what we're talking about. I am a large, bearded man with many feminine traits and I no longer question those things in terms of my gender. I feel like a man and identify with that. But I also don't let that mean that stop me from wearing underwear that makes me feel sexy or from rocking my collection of Muu Muu's. I'm lucky, because it's like...who's gonna walk up to a giant man in a dress and shame him, but it's taken a lifetime of self exploration to get to that point.

It's been a lot harder for me in terms of my pansexuality, because I still prefer women even though I like to play with men, trans, plus folk often. Finding a partner who is cool with both openness in the relationship AND the fact that I literally have no boundaries past chemistry in terms of partner requirements has been difficult. But not nearly as difficult as it is for ME to be cool with being in that relationship and having the option to play to with others. It's one thing to fantasize about things. It's an entirely different thing to live that life. I dunno, if that makes sense, but these things are fluid I guess is my point. You can feel one thing today and another thing tomorrow and that's okay.