Fellas, what’s the smoothest way to ask a girl for consent to kiss her, when you feel it in the moment but you’re not sure if she does too, without ruining the moment or mood?

In my experience, there's always awkwardness.

To start, make sure you've been with the girl for more than a few dates and you understand her a bit better. Talk about stuff like kissing and sex. Ask the question "when do you feel is the right time to kiss and for sex?"

Once you know her comfort level next is getting over the awkwardness. If you try and kiss her directly, unless she likes things that way (which hopefully she will tell you), she will probably turn away. And that will make the next kiss attempt much harder. A turn-away can really hurt.

A neat trick I've found is to do a surprise peck. Basically, when you're close, find a reason to have your face close to hers, such as reaching past her to get something while sitting on the couch, and then sneak a quick peck in there. Kiss her as you pass by, then act as nothing happened.

Before that, it would be best to have more physical contact. Handholding is a great way to get closer to a girl. My trick for that is to ask to see her hand. She shows it to me, and I go to point something out and then quickly interlace fingers. I always get this "that was cool" look.

Lots of hugging, lots of handholding, and lots of sitting close together. That's the way to lower the barriers and make that first kiss really good, I think.

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