So... I don’t really agree with either of you here lol.

I’ll start off by saying that I get Ex-Muslim women dating white men. Muslim/ME men, even 2nd-gen ones, are rank misogynists and hypocrites. I get wanting to have nothing to do with them.

That being said, sexual racism favoring white men is a real thing, probably being the worst in the (E/SE) Asian community. There would be no issue with Asian woman/white man relationships if they were based on genuine love and an actual respect for the other partner’s people and culture. The problem with far too many AWWM relationships is they lack this core structure. (A side issue for some Asian men is the disparity in outmarriage between AM and AW and the resultant imbalance in the community, but let’s set that aside for now)

Asian women and white men in these relationships routinely denigrate Asian men for being “feminine”, having small genitalia, and all manner of emasculating insults. White men in AWWM relationships also still attack white women who date Asian men and mateguard, so it isn’t like this is based on some true racial progressivism except when it suits white men. In fact, there are numerous alt-right and otherwise far-right white men who date/marry Asian women. Richard Spencer, John Derbyshire, Andrew Anglin, and RamZPaul - to name but a few - have all dated or married Asian women.

Of course some level of mixing should be expected in a multiracial society, and especially so in small diaspora communities. I’m not against interracial marriage - for ethnic men or women - and I actually have problem with many immigrant parents who have unrealistic expectations on this subject. Many of these relationships just happen organically, for sure, and it’s a natural symptom of assimilation. But a decent part of it is in fact white-worshipping and racial fetishization of ethnic women, and that needs to be addressed as well.

Rant over. LOL.