I'm really not tooting my horn, but, I specialize in helping women that "Can't orgasm" have orgasms for the first time.

I've had so many women tell me they can't have one, their body isn't like other women's bodies, etc., that an OBGYN told them it's normal and not to even care about it, etc etc, like every anti-orgasm excuse you can think of.

In my 25 years of practice, I can think of 2 women that had just terrible vaginismus who I was unable to bring to orgasm within 3 minutes of stimulation.

I have learned two hard truths in my career about this issue:

1) Women, that have orgasm issues, tend to be far less sexually experienced than they deem themselves to be, something like that effect where people think they know way more than they actually do, and overestimate their abilities. I've had women tell me that their G Spot doesn't work, then rub their outer labia, and exclaim angrily "See!" I tend to have to slowly erase everything these women think they know about sex, and rebuild them from the ground up, correcting all their wrong assumptions, sending them home with information pamphlets to study, etc. I've seen probably, 5,000 patients in 25 years, and two, I was unable to bring to orgasm. The vast majority of women that come to me fall under this category, and you can sense it, they can't say the word vagina without giggling, they can't buy a dildo because "ohmigosh how could I?", they refuse to do their masturbatory exercises and instead rely on me to stimulate them, they tend to just not be anywhere near as sexual as they think themselves to be.

2) Their men tend to be bad lovers, we often bring in the partner, at a certain point, to do some hands on touch training, they often times are just too rough and too fast, they don't ever slow down and just take their time. I've seen countless men try to ram a finger into a dry vagina without even lubing it first, then acting surprised when their spouse or GF shrieks in pain. They get frustrated and don't want to participate if you offer advice or attempt to show them, they act like children.

Now there is a 3rd class, those with heavy vaginismus or any other vaginal abnormality that results in extreme pain during sex and arousal. They are special people that require special attention, they are nothing like the first 2 groups, and I try to dedicate the most time to these patients. It's hard to deal with but I try to send them on their way with tools to assist and allow them to have normal ish relationships.

Good luck all, but this article is spot on, the orgasm and female anatomy are NOT complicated and most people just need to sit down with a mirror and have an honest conversation with their SO to understand how their own genitals work and share this with their partners.