Although I did title the post to get some traction to get some answers ,but damn, you should read the post a little more carefully and think before posting your reply. I am in a field filled with powerful female. I am a feminist myself if it means empowered women and equal opportunity. "To note, I am FOR girls with strong drive to achieve greatness in every aspect of her life." I am strongly attracted to girls with aspirations. I believe that real feminist don't get pissed off when you try to have a conversation with them they converse.

With that being said, I communicated with her before hand like any sensible BDSM community members would. If she doesn't actively identify that way she should communicate with me because I communicated clearly with her about my sexuality.

I am not afraid of offending anyone. If you can't offend, you can't communicate. How can you have a meaningful conversation about important matter which all important topic are sensitive in nature. But this should not be seeping into your BEDROOM ACTIVITY topics.