I am a feminist and I think that a lot of us say stuff like that because of experience. For example, the other day some men said ‘oh, that is halloween!’ when I was walking by them on my black dress that I always wear. My father said that if I like to dress in black, I have to get used to hear those kind of things. But no, I don’t. And this is what I think a lot of feminists mean when we say things like ‘I hate all men’ - not all men will say stuff like that but the amount of them that will speak up for women or that will call out their friends when they say something is really, really small. I don’t think that all men will harass me, but I know that there are very few of them that will do something if they see a woman getting harassed.

I think that it is a culture thing, it is the patriarchy that makes men act like this. We live in a society were men have to be strong and emotionless. This is a society where work is such a strong part of everyone’s life, and that the culture of men having to be the bread-winners or at least having the higher salaries or where it is ok to be sexist jokes is perpetuated again and again. This culture and this patriarchy is super based and supported by capitalism (as it needs people to be exploited to continue to exist - woman, people of colour, migrants, any minority) and the whole social reproduction/production thing, and as we know, women are the ones who take most care of their children/elders and men (because of patriarchy!) are to be more distant or not so involved in their children’s education, the social reproduction system where these things are normal continues to be perpetuated.

I am sorry if this is too long or too confusing - but I think that when women say those kinds of thing is because they are done with men trying to silence them, because they say ‘not all men’ or because almost no men will call out a guy friend for harassing a woman.