When you go on apps there should be plenty of guys being into BDSM. No one will know what kind of sex you have in your own bedroom so what society thinks is not relevant.

I don't have the same problem as you. I don't really have fetish and if guys, who are into the sub/dom thing, approach me they always want to dominate me and not being dominated by me (except for maybe 2 or 3 times). I mean good for me since I am more of a submissive person in general.

But you may give the opposite vibe. You can may change your pictures you have. If you a comfortable with XXX-pics, maybe don't have dick pictures but rather some of your butt. (I don't have such pictures btw so it can work without)

Unfortunaly, if you meet a guy in person the chances of him being into BDSM plus being the dominante one is rather low. Therefore looking online should be better. I bet there are fetish sites for that. And you do not have to put up your face on whatever app you use for everyone to see. Just scrowl through profiles to see if there are some dom people write them a message and maybe send them a face pic along.

I don't know if there a "cures" for that. But watching normal porn might help a little.

And if you're a toal bottom and the thought of topping is a mental turn off (just like me) the chances to enjoy being the top to one day to another are about zero I'd say.