With the prevalence of BDSM in pop culture over the last few years (as far as that sort of stuff goes) and a fucking massive free community site have combined to attract a lot of men who think the D/S lifestyle is just an excuse to beat women “with permission.”

I see it A LOT. At every munch and party there’s always at least one. You can pick them out in clubs from a mile away, and they only visit the same events a few times before they move on or out.

10 years ago these guys would just have been beating women behind closed doors. Now they have a community that encourages it within certain contexts.

It’s unacceptable, and some sub women are uncomfortable drawing the line properly. There needs to be a lot more education about what are healthy dom/sub dynamic and behaviours and what’s abuse masquerading as fetish.