Moving and renovating a new home is probably one of the hardest things to do as a married couple. And thats where both parties have the name on the house and both benefit from all the work put into the new home.

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As someone along for the ride but not actually invested in the property, seeing no return on weeks and sometimes months of uncomfortable living, as well as the stress of hard labour its pretty much relationship ending.

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What I dont understand is how your partner decided to buy a fixer upper and not include you in the decission to do so, IF you guys live together. It should have been a mutual decission. If it wasnt, then I believe you are simply experiencing for the first time, the true consequences of NOT being an equal partner and NOT having someone value and respect your opinions before making life altering choices while being in a relationship with you. Those are serious problems that are not bared for you to look at.