Fiancee(F/38) has participated in open relationships, threesomes and the like, unbeknownst to me. I(M/35) am now very uncomfortable and want to call off the whole thing.

Lmao that's all you got from that huh?

You have no actual basis for your own argument. On what planet is she supposed to read his mind and know that he required a detailed history in her past relationships? She didn't lie, she didn't omit, she didn't do anything wrong really and even offered to elaborate further on the details but OP shit her down. Poor communication.

He's absolutely free to have his own principles and stand by them, but acting like she breached his trust or did anything wrong is delusional. So again, unless were missing more vital info, she did nothing wrong.

Bottom line is: if he's not happy, and her entire image to him depends on her sexual history, then by all means he should leave, but acting like there's some deeper more profound reasoning behind it is pointless. He's also been with her for 8 years and thinks she's suddenly gonna crave an open relationship? It's not impossible, but if he's that worried about there are likely deeper issues in the relationship aside from who she fucked in the past.

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