Figured some of the trolls might be able to relate

Guy she likes booty calls her. She shows up and he’s wasted. She stays despite this and he initiates (and keeps initiating) sex – or rather some terrible foreplay. He’s nodding off periodically. She’s regretting the entire thing but keeps waking him up to salvage the situation. She eventually bails after he passes out. She’s accused of rape/sexual assault for taking advantage of him while he was drunk and/or she shouldn’t have let him initiate sex at all.

I’m sorry but no. This isn’t rape. He invites her over, it’s his idea to have sex, he initiates everything. She cedes control to him the entire time, she doesn’t do anything to him while he’s passed out, she leaves when it’s obvious he’s in no condition to be having sex. It was a dumb move to take a shot at it at all but that doesn’t make her a rapist, jesus I’d say she did the right thing in that situation even if getting there in the first place is stupid.

Gender reversal scenario: girl invites guy over, guy shows up and girl is drunk, girl drags him to bed and awkwardly tries foreplay/oral on him, she passes out, guy leaves. I don’t really see the pitchforks here?

Tea scenario: person invites friend over for tea. Friend shows up and person is drunk. Drunk person tries to serve tea but ends up spilling it all over the table. Friend leaves. In hindsight was it a stupid idea to let a drunk person serve you tea, even if you REALLY wanted some tea? Yes. But that doesn’t make you a deplorable, dangerous, and despicable human being for giving it a try, and I doubt the drunk person is going to be more than a little annoyed that friend didn’t try to stop him from serving tea sooner (or at all).

Like I’m not a rape victim and I don’t want to speak for anyone who is but I’m actually getting rather angry on their behalf over this. It seems incredibly insulting and disrespectful to put that at the same level of the horrible, systematic shit women and men have endured. “Friend let me drunkenly fondle them” isn’t even in the same continent. Not everything is an attack or a crime - sometimes people just do awkward, stupid shit. “Drunk plus sober is automatically rape because being drunk CAN void consent” is like the definition of following the letter of the law versus the spirit of it. To say nothing of all the assumptions being made of the alleged victim here… if I were in his shoes I’d be mad as hell that everyone was talking like I was hurt or victimized by this. I’d probably feel like the ass in this situation for thinking any of it was a good idea at the time.

Whelp, there’s the rant. Bracing myself for the downvotes now.

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