Final discard over text?

Yes.

A week prior, she went away with her mum. After this she was on her phone all the time. We barely talked, so I knew something was up. She then went to stay with her mum again. She avoided me returning home on the Friday. She didn't talk to me at all on the Saturday. On Sunday I had a text "we need to talk". I asked what about, she said she would speak to me later. I rang her until she spoke to me on the phone, much later on. The conversation went: me "is that it then" her "yeh", that was the last time we spoke.

Much more happened after this. I had a bit of a breakdown and ended up in hospital. She told me to not be selfish. While I was in hospital she tried to take a £4000 loan out against me (she didn't get it). We still had to talk for a while as she had left all her stuff at our house. It was only by text or email. For months afterwards she would tell me she needed money. She would give me all sorts of reasons for needing money. She told me she would be homeless. It was all lies.

After our breakup I also found out about roughly £10000 of debts and also court summonses. I knew about a little bit of this, but not the full extent. I had to deal with baliffs coming to my house to take my things, and that was a whole other unpleasant thing I had to deal with.

She was deeply mentally abusive throughout our relationship. She would frequently make me feel awful. I could talk about a lot of things at this point, but the specifics don't really matter. I am still living with some of the after effects and probably will be for some time. I went to domestic abuse counselling following our break up. Only once, on the advice of the mental health people I talked to about all of this.

I don't really know exactly what happened to receive the text. She didn't tell me anything, and I wouldn't believe anything she would had told me anyway. My guess is that she met someone else while she was away and I didn't matter anymore, except as a source of money. That's why I believe it was a text. To her I wasn't worth anything more than that.

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