First codependent meltdown of the relationship

I know I'm jaded. I've had too many "perfect" people who "aren't like anyone I've ever met" in my life to trust my instincts on these things. Those people do not exist. Believing that the do makes me very vulnerable to narcissists who are masters at pretending to be perfect and always say and do the right things, at least until they feel like they have me trapped.

If early on in a relationship or friendship I KNOW that someone is a good person, I personally take that as a warning sign. If I can't see that they are human with a complex mix of strengths and faults, then that tells me that I'm still seeing them through rose coloured glasses.

I'm not saying you should break up with this guy or anything drastic like that. I'd just warn that it sounds like you're putting this guy up on a pedestal, so you're probably not seeing him clearly for who he really is. Until you can see him as an equal, either by having more trust in yourself or seeing him more realistically, you probably won't be able to form a healthy relationship.

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