My pattern 1. People tend to think I'm a cunt because I say offensive things and they can't tell if I'm joking or not (I constantly jokingly make offensive jokes or comments to people and they can't tell because my voice is monotone. The whole offensive comments thing is probably a subconscious defense mechanism so people don't get close to me, or I just like to fuck with people, I don't know) Or. 1. People view me as smart (like in class, since I function more logically. It's really not that I am any more intelligent)
Once I decide I like someone, I get warmer. I respect their boundaries in terms of what I say and I start to bring in more meaningful conversation. I tend to be viewed as their friend at this point.
If I like someone passed part 2 of the pattern, I open myself up a bit and I show more of who I actually am under my mask of cynicism and misanthropy. It takes me to get to this point to finally consider someone a friend. I also finally feel that this person is someone to respect.
After part 3, I build actual trust with someone. That takes a really long time.
After 4, I actually go out of my way to spend time with the person that got this far.
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