[First time anxiety] 19/M still a virgin, never had a girlfriend, need help getting over anxiety and questions

Its not weird at all. People generally have their first time anywhere between 15-21, and anywhere in between is fine. My first time was with my first girlfriend and we were both virgins at 17. Ideally you want a first time with a girlfriend rather than a random bar hook up, but a girl below your apartment or whatever is fine too (well, anything is fine).

In terms of initiating, if you're sure they're into you and want it, suggest something like watching a film or TV Show on your laptop. Doesnt matter what, she will say yes (but try not to pick something super indie or whatever: something like Inception or Bridget Jones will do). You will have to be rather close to each other in bed in order to watch it, and this gives you a chance to put your arm round her, cuddle up, rub her shoulder etc. If you know she's into you, she will be absolutely fine with this. Then after a while just turn your head and look at her and move in for a kiss. She'll reciprocate and you just caress her upper body and back of head etc and itll progress from there.

Feel free to tell her its your first time (or not) if you feel like it. She probably won't care too much.

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