Okay. How embarrassing. I cannot believe an adult woman would conduct herself like that. “Oh, we’ll just use OP’s elderly grandparents home. It doesn’t matter that her dad’s ill because what I want is more important.” Your poor DH must have been horrified. I’m so glad you have each other’s backs regarding this. If I was his sister I would be furious with my mother and so embarrassed for trying to put you in that position, and I’m so glad you’re standing firm on this. I hope your day next year is full of sunshine and happiness, OP, and if you remember please let us all know how it all went. I’m a sucker for romance and getting married in a place which has such meaning to you sounds wonderful.