Oh sorry I didn't realize that was a rule. However I wouldn't say I'm really asking for my compulsion to be validated. I am just asking for perspective about whether this is something a normal person would be concerned about.

The real issue I'm getting at is, my husband has a tendency to not take anything I say about cleanliness, safety, etc. seriously because he thinks I "need everything to be perfect" and overreact to everything. Like for example: his car is gross and it always annoys me to have to be in there because it's disgusting. For years I was always asking him if he could get his car detailed, and let me clean/organize it regularly. He was like "stop overreacting and needing everything to be perfect." Then finally I got him to get the interior detailed a few months ago, and the people at the detailing place told him it was on the top 10 of grossest cars they had ever cleaned. So clearly I wasn't so crazy after all there. After that he finally accepted his car was gross and started doing at least some cleaning of it regularly...after someone else validated what I was saying. But when I said it I was just a "crazy person."

However, even though he has now been cleaning and maintaining it, it's still pretty gross because he throws a lot of random items in the trunk, backseat, compartments, etc. Finally after months of asking he let me do some cleaning and organizing of the car today. He of course was telling me "I clean the car every week now, it's not dirty anymore, you need to stop being so controlling about everything." However he became apologetic once I showed him three reusable shopping bags' worth of garbage, items that were supposed to be brought in the house, items that he told me he donated to Goodwill over a year ago, etc. that I had collected from various places in the car.

So basically I don't really know what is considered reasonable or not because I am always being told that I am unreasonable, but some of the things that I say are believed when somebody else says them.