My wife and I waited until marriage. It was the best decision of my life.

In my opinion, it gave me an extended opportunity to get to know her on a deeper level without having to worry that I was conflating good sex with long term compatibility. Her willingness to abstain demonstrated comprehension of delayed gratification, which is a critical part of being a grown up that some people never master. And it meant we never had a pregnancy scare, an std scare, or any thing of the sort.

We’ve been married almost two decades now, and we still enjoy sex regularly.

Every time I see one of these posts, I see one or two people who abstained, and they are swamped by dozens who try to justify their own life choices or who make implications that the sex must be bad or that anyone who would wait for marriage has something mentally wrong with them. It isn’t like that. It isnt about judging others and it isn’t about avoiding the wrath of God - seriously, there are far better reasons for him to smite me.

What it is about is valuing honesty and purity and fidelity in my relationship with my wife. She is my first and my only, and i am hers.

And lol at the idea that i have to have sex with other people to figure out what my wife likes. As though all women are the same and learning from one is 100% applicable to the next (I honestly don’t know, but i’ve been lead to believe that women are all different in their sexual preferences?). Either way, I’ve had lots of opportunity to learn what my wife likes. Though practice makes perfect.....