For Those That Missed The Stream.

Umm Every child is loved defferently biological or not .

If a woman gives up a child for adoption it’s never because of the child being unloved

Women can be gang raped and not have a clue who exactly the father was and then beaten to near death just before child is born.

Mothers can be children at themselves and live in poor family’s

Mothers can be starving and homeless and penny less at time of giving birth or some time later

Mothers can be forced to be separated from their children by mental health workers/ parents/ criminal fathers / kidnapped. And extremely grieved about it.

And mothers can be kept away from their children because they have been drugged to forget them Have a disability Have no money No transport Have an anxiety illness Family members keeping them away because it’s an embarrassment that their daughter got pregnant out of wedlock.

Mothers can feel exactly the way you do.

And this can carry on indefinitely

Sometimes mothers want to reconnect with their children but haven’t a clue how to No records , Names unknown And scared for their lives as they may have been abused all through out .

If you were with your mother for any length of time before you were given up try to recall what life was like , what she was like.

Maybe life hasn’t changed for her

Maybe if you cannot remember her she cannot remember you.

Ideally mums give up their children to someone who will keep them alive and give them more than she could She may have wanted to stay in your life and be there throughout but for reasons stated above. That cookie crumbled

Some moms definitely don’t want to give up their children but they are literally faced with the children dying if she keeps them or all of you dying through poverty or murder Or They are basically kidnapped. Or the mother could of been imprisoned because one of her rapist decided to shoot her son and then he ends up raising them. Maybe the mother is medicated Or drugged against her will And literally can’t even look after herself let alone children.

Maybe your mother was in love with your father and he literally broke her heart by infedelity and she was too grieved to function

I’m sorry to those who got lousy adopted parents. I’m sure your birth parents wasn’t to know. And if they could of screened the adoptive parents and known them well beforehand that would of been her ideal.

I hope this can give you some perspective on why your mother finds it so awkward to meet with you or speak with you or be there for you And why fathers I’m happy for those who feel loved and have comfortable lives . This is a birth mother and fathers ideal and may we Rest In Peace.

For those who feel unloved and not belonging psalm 139 And Genesis 1 & 2

/r/Adoption Thread