For those that stay together primarily for the kids...

My husband wouldn’t agree for anything except the traditional realms of a marriage. No swinging, no DADT, no flirting. It took me years to finally have him go down on me.

I have put up with his bull shit for so long that I think I have lost sense of what’s tolerable and what’s terrible. We have issues that run deeper than just sex, infact sexual incompatibility is more of a byproduct of other issues and he fails to even acknowledge that. His solution is that I should smile and act like a happy wife, well I am not fucking happy so why should I pretend?

For reasons I can’t detail, divorce isn’t an option currently. I don’t know if I will survive it till kids move out.

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