I definitely get where you're coming from.

Try to see it from his point of view. He feels like he may have an issue with erectile dysfunction (which btw, over 50 percent of cases of males in his age group). It's scary and it's one of those things that get worse the more he thinks about it.

Back to the porn. Would you ever in life make porn of yourself and distribute it among your friends? I'm guessing no. Now, imagine your friend gets into a relationship with a guy. The guy she is dating finds out about the porn. You think that guy would be ok with that? Most likely not, or it would at least cause some discomfort on his end.

Does that make sense? She has effectively objectified herself as a sex object. There is nothing else to it. Think about it for a second. Once your bf found out about the porn stuff, even before he watched it, your friend devolved in his mind to just a resource used to troubleshoot his perceived erectile dysfunction.

There is nothing to be threatened by. Most males don't want to be involved with someone that has explicit content circulating the web. Even if her face isn't in it.