Yeah that’s been our biggest issue. He’s a great husband and I love him very much. But when his family is involved is when our issues come jumping out. His childhood with that family is very messed up and sad. I’d like him to go to therapy. They just have such a hold on him, it’s insane. It’s very much a “conditional love” type of situation with his family. He has to jump through hoops for them to “love” him and it’s been like that his whole life. For me, I’d say screw it that’s more worth it and go NC but for him? He thinks that’s normal. I think he needs a therapist because I know these issues will only grow and make things harder on our marriage