Or the damage they have inflicted on their partner. I felt that my then ex-bf at the time became addicted to porn during our relationship (felt like he started out being normal then he became so addicted he stopped being attracted for me, even though he sounded like he wanted to me, he would say why is it not working) so there was a conflict between his brain and his organ. Either way, I felt utterly unattractive and not loved during this process. Porn sounded like the other woman to me (if there wasn't actually another woman). He didn't try to fix anything so as time went on I felt more and more rejected and more and more alone. I left that relationship completely shattered and feeling so incredibly unattractive and horrible about myself. But another thought is that he was never really "that into me" so maybe he was lying to himself that he was attracted to me when he wasn't. Either way, I left bc I want to be with someone who is into me, not is unsure or maybe sometimes. No one deserves that.