Frugal husband or are we financially incompatible?

I can somewhat relate. My husband had to break it down for me that if we go to 5 different stores just to make sure we get everything on sale, we would be spending more money on gas so not only it doesn't even even out, we'd be making a loss. There were times when he previously would just buy things full price and I would get upset because I feel like he is frivolously spending our money. But after he broke it down in cost, I realised that it really isn't worthwhile.

But it's hard to let go of habits so now I always make sure to buy extra when I buy and that way I would always be buying them when they are on sale. I have all the apps for all the different stores and I add things to cart religiously. So when we happen to go to one of these stores, I would always know what are the things I need to get from these stores.

I know others are saying money earned is to be enjoyed etc but it's hard when you have experienced hardships with no financial safety net so all these frugal habits are deeply embedded within you. So when it comes to entertaining friends etc, my husband encourages me a lot verbally. Isnt it nice if they can enjoy x, wouldnt it be so nice if we get that for the party we always wanted to try it, and when I did spend more on things we serve to guests, he would repeatedly say i think they really enjoyed it, that meat cuts were so good, the veggies tasted so fresh cause we bought the more expensive one isnt it, so good it was worth the extra $. I know it sounds so silly because I do notice what he is doing, but I let him, because I know it helps me unlearn my habit of constantly living life on survival mode. We also go over our finances and my husband would always say that i have a good savings pot and put it in a way if you are unemployed you can survive x years with no income and it makes me feel a lot safer. And also having a partner who understands my needs for a security net and doesn't look down like I am a bit lower class or anything cause I am cheap really helps.

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