I’m in agreement. I used to use the main three pronoun sets interchangeably while I was questioning, but am much, much more comfortable with being he/him exclusive now, and request them as such. That being said, I nowhere near cis pass— I look like an early-T trans guy… which I am so that makes sense. But I would much MUCH prefer those who aren’t sure what my gender is to use they/them, than to think I’m just a really masculine girl and use she/her on me.
I think some people in the sub forget that no matter how hard some of us try, being cis passing may never come, and as a result, we are visibly trans, and to allies wishing to affirm that, they can’t assume which way, why? Because I’ve had really well meaning people guess I was MTF instead of FTM.