The Fuckening- I'm no longer excited to have a baby.

Oh love, i'm so sorry this is a source of stress for you.
here are my statements of empowerment for you, gentle reminders of what you can and cannot control:
1) you cannot make good choices for MIL - her choice to enable the bad behavior of those around her is not your fault, or your burden to carry.
2) You cannot make good decisions for SIL - her choice to enable the bad behavior of her child, and to be unreasonable in her demands of others is not your fault, or your burden to carry.
3) you can make good choices for yourself - when you limit the presence of damaging and over;y-burdensome influences in your life, that is a good thing.
4) It is OK and RIGHT that you protect yourself and your family members from actions and behaviors that harm them physically or emotionally.
5) You are not responsible for choices made by MIL - if she chooses to remove herself from a bad situation, that's a good thing. You are not responsible for the fallout with SIL if MIL bails.
6) You are not responsible for the choices made by MIL - If she changes her circumstances, you are not obligated to enable or support her. And you are still able to limit her presence with you to protect yourself and your family.
7) You are not responsible for the choices made by SIL - if MIL's decisions cause SIL inconvenience, that is not your fault or your responsibility.

Things are overwhelming for you right now, so here are my virtual hugs. Take a breath and remember that so much of this burden is optional - you CAN make the decisions to include or exclude as you choose, as you are able. You can set your boundaries, lock the door, and turn off your phone. Their emotions and decisions can be theirs to deal with.

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