We've spoken online for a long while and the first girl has been involved for a long while and even though she didn't enjoy it at first she's adapted and loves what she does, not that she has a choice really. She recently gave birth to a girl and I know she'll be raised the same way, what advice, if any, do you have to possibly get her out of that kind of situation? If only for the sake of her new baby.

Jeez! That's a really tough situation. And honestly, I'm not sure my advice is worth any more than anyone elses here or elsewhere. You - and she - need all the advice you can get. I can only tell you what I'd do, and I don't know the particulars.

I'd get out. If it was an abusive upbringing, I'd never want to raise a child in it. If I had to, I'd try to make sure that the rules of the game were different. Don't have children do things they don't want to do or aren't ready to do - they have to be interested and engaged and that's an organic process. If she can lobby for that, well, maybe better to stay, but whoa. Whoa! I can't imagine staying - but blood is thick, I get that.

Does she feel that she may not have alternative economic options?

The second was abused by an uncle and then started with the rest of her family, when we first spoke she was uncertain how she felt and didn't feel comfortable, like she didn't know how to get them all to stop, but then she switched and said she didn't want help and that she was enjoying it more even if she had no control. We don't talk about her stopping, but she's been getting into more and more extreme stuff. Not sure if there is any good advice for that situation either...I wouldn't mind a critique of how I handled it since I accidentally fell into a "white knight" routine that angered her.

I don't know... this would be worse if not for the first's baby. I guess gather literature, cull excerpts, and send them to her to at least give her some perspective? If she's a minor, what option does she have but to make the best of a shit situation?

The "extreme stuff" thing... that's, to my mind, a sign of personality distortion - people make peace with their shadow in strange ways if the shadow's been bloated with other people's garbage. And it's really hard to tell people with serious kinks that they might be damaging - because people want them to be a legitimate orientation. I don't know how to counter that.

It sounds trite, cliche even, but I think what people like this need - and there are so many damaged people out there - is sexual healing. They need to fuck people who really, really care about them, and can take them to a different place back up through the same thing they fell by, sex.

But how is that practical for these young ladies? I have no idea. :(