first, your original post is actually incomplete, but i didn’t bother going into details, but here it is:

the soul-bride is a woman. there's nowhere in bani it says or even alludes to the possibility of the soul-bride to be a man.

the husband-lord is a man. there's nowhere in bani it says or even alludes to the possibility of the husband-lord to be a woman.

the anand karaj ("blissful union") is the process of combining two souls (one from woman, one from man) into one soul, with that one new soul in both bodies.

Dhan pir ayhi na aakhee-an bahan ikthay ho-ay. They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together.

ayk jot du-ay moortee Dhan pir kahee-ai so-ay. ||3||

They alone are called husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies. ||3|| (SGGSJ, 788)

this is very important to understand. This allows us to complete the soul-bride husband-lord relationship on both a physical level (woman + man = soul-bride + husband-lord), and it allows us to complete the soul-bride husband-lord relationship on a spiritual-level as follows: the newlywed husband and wife’s souls have fused into one soul (to form the new spiritual soul-bride) to merge with the spiritual husband-lord (god).

hence, there are two soul-bride husband-lord unions, a physical one and a spiritual one, and by definition of the anand-karaj, they can only be completed by a woman and a man. it’s simply not possible to complete both the soul-bride and husband-lord union on both physical and spiritual levels if you don’t have one man and one woman.

Hence, the anand karaj, by definition, is between only one man and one woman. It cannot be completed for its intended purpose in any other way.

the sikh anand karaj, is actually very brilliantly (ingeniously!) designed by guru amar das ji.

think about that for a moment.

Well I guess your name definitely suits you.

thank you.