I’m a transgender woman dating a woman. My first trip to Vietnam I had been on hormones for a while but it wasn’t so obvious unless I undressed.

Well my partner and I went for a couples spa day and I was horrified when they tried to throw me in a male locker room. Fuck any comments, throwing a trans person into a locker room to undress and walk around naked isn’t pleasant for anyone.

Well through google translate we got the message across and after a staff meeting they were super accommodating, we skipped the locker room part and they gave me a private place to go wash up before we went to the couples room. I also believe I was supposed to have a male masseuse but they swapped to a female one for me. I’m not sure about that last part but it was obvious they were in unfamiliar territory.

All in all I would say 10/10. It was an awkward situation for everyone and they handled it as best they could and never once acted rude.

In comparison I have been living in Thailand and even after being on hormones and living more feminine I had gym staff tell me “We are open minded, it’s ok.” When I asked if they could accommodate me. When I said I was uncomfortable undressing with men because of previous sexual advances she said “You’re not pretty enough to worry about that.” That’s pretty par for the course there.

So as gay men, the top of the LGBT pyramid, you’re going to be ok. People might offend you but your human rights are unlikely to be stepped on.