i just feel like every girl i date is out of touch, irrational, and i can’t be myself around them for the fear that they will dislike me or find me “problematic”.

Millennial lesbo here. That’s just women in general and if you feel that way it’s because you are the different one and not them. I can relate.

When I tell you every girl I dated before my current partner was dumb and annoying in comparison, I mean it. No amount of hotness will make it better either. You have to find yourself a real one and you’ll see it’s like night and day. Keep those eyes and ears open and you will find her eventually.

And from my experience, LGBT youth are usually more into liberal activist politics given their circumstances although I can imagine it’s worse now given that it’s mainstream. So your dilemma is not strictly a zoomer thing.

Older women aren’t the answer unless you don’t mind Elizabeth Warren stans/Megan Rapanoe types. I have no idea where you would find a tolerable older lesbian given that the best ones are wifed up or are too busy living adult lives i.e def not on Twitter or anywhere you would hang out. If they are then that’s probably a red flag.