i'd argue that a hell of a lot of (democratic!) men are comfortable existing in the middle of that spectrum where they pay lip service to the equality of women but aren't particularly interested in changing where power is vested in our society.

Of course. Is there any incentive to be otherwise?

All arguments for equality involve the group that is currently benefiting from the status quo giving up something. Resources are not limitless. So what minorities are asking for in reality, since resources like jobs and opportunity are finite, is for the people in positions of "privilege" to lower themselves voluntarily for the alleged good of the community as a whole.

What we have seen, for reasons not entirely (or at all) the fault of the disadvantaged, is a steady decline in the lifestyle of what the persons of former privilege are experiencing - their towns are dying as people run to the city for work, opportunities are fewer as the job market struggles to deal with the reality of women flooding the marketplace, and inflation is out of control as two income households have become the norm.

"What about me?" is the perfectly normal reaction they're having to this destruction of their former way of life - and for their trouble, they get what, exactly? Made to feel like a pariah, while they go to their shit job in their shit town with their shit pill addiction and told that they are, in fact, the problem with society. That none of their problems matter, or are real, and in any case they're not as bad as what the formerly disadvantaged groups have to deal with. Even if they are by all accounts "a good guy". like Brown's husband of 49 years, they are part of the enemy with even a single slip-up. Because they are carte blanche associated with a system they didn't set up, and possibly never benefitted from. If noone wants to listen to them, or validate them, they'll just fight back, and this is the result we are seeing across the globe.

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