I’m sorry I need to vent. This whole day has seemed like a bad movie I didn’t ask to be playing a role in. My husband decided to drive all the way to see his mom for Christmas, I didn’t even get asked if that was ok for me. We drove for 12 hours to get here, on the way she called to ask, if we can bring dinner, it was Christmas night and I’m from Europe so that’s actually Christmas for me and I was bummed out to be spending it on the road, but to have to get groceries after such a long drive?? We ended up getting Mac Donald’s for the whole family. Today when we got up there was no food, so I asked around and ended up making French toast and cutting up the pie that I brought. I ask, what are we having for Christmas dinner, and they say Mac and cheese. Uhm sorry that’s it? I mean sure, I don’t need a whole table full of fancy food or anything but it is Christmas after all right?! Luckily I brought food from home that I had prepared (which they had no idea that I had made the effort to cook a freaking spit roast for 4 hours). Like I legit even needed the potatoes which I only brought as a back up, in case they wouldn’t have enough potatoes. I just feel really offended. As in, why would they invite us, if they don’t want to cook or go grocery shopping ? It’s her only son, and we are military so it’s not like we see each other very often. Plus, it’s my first time visiting his hometown. I would have expected some kind of southern hospitality?! Not trying to offend anybody, but I really feel like some Americans do not have the greatest manners. I’ve visited really poor friends in poor countries before and they cooked up a storm for me, which I really didn’t expect or anything, but I loved it!! I’m also really into cooking and I love having people over, every time the in laws visit I cook up a storm, so I feel kind of offended and unappreciated. My husband is just playing with the new video game I got him for Christmas, and I’m sitting here and can’t even drink because the family is so religious. I didn’t feel like coming here because of covid, and I deeply regret that I’ll have to spend another two days in this mansion with no food legit not even one cookie was offered to me. (Side Note, yes i know there are way worse things going on in the world, and I do pray for others and socially distance, and donate. But I can’t help but feel sorry for myself and my husband, too). Sometimes I feel like this family really doesn’t appreciate me (and my husband doesn’t either). But when I try to talk to him about feelings, he just shuts completely off. He is a military man after all!! You’d think ok get over it, it’s just one day a year, but he’ll be gone for six months starting in January and I really needed some quality time before that.. I feel so freaking mad about the whole situation and just genuinely upset.. oh merry Christmas by the way!!