I think that’s and easy fix, let’s imagine you ARE looking for a guy do date, you would look around a choose a guy, that is probably a bit more private, isn’t all over the place, because if you just sit around and do nothing to get a guy ( which is your case but a bit different because you don’t want to date anybody I’m just imagining if you wanted to) what is the guys that will approach you in a club? The loud guys the ones that aren’t high value men, because those are the ones that are real life swiping through girls. So if you want to join the dating scene you have to find a guy, doesn’t mean that you will start the conversation it will mean that you will pick look at him and he will get the signs or something, so if you aren’t taking an effort in men, only shitty ones will come to you it’s just life, hope I could help