My husband and I just separated 2 months ago after 15 yrs together (married for 12). For me, I'm finding that focusing on myself and nurturing myself and doing things I enjoy is helping me cope with things. Obviously it's still early days, though the relationship had been "dead" for about 2 yrs before he moved out. And I do want a relationship again, but for now I just want to love myself tbh. Our relationship started out good, but he was/is an addict and I was very co-dependent. So for me, it's been good to start thinking about my needs and future and finding my own identity. I'm also super introverted, but taking baby steps to engage with others more is helping me feel more connected. My go-to is withdrawal, and I'm trying to avoid that. Volunteering at a local UU church that's super gay friendly has been one of my baby steps. But maybe look around for gay sports leagues if you are athletic (I'm so not!) or other community things like that that are built around shared interests instead of just drinking/partying.

As for meeting other guys, you are still young and you have plenty of time. I feel like when you find contentment and joy in your life, and find your passions, you will find the right guy in the right time. In the meantime, there's always Grindr ;) Also, I can't say enough about how my pug has been a mental health lifesaver! He literally gets me up in the morning and keeps me on a schedule, for walking and feeding and playing etc. So something to consider!