Getting through infidelity when you were the cheater.

Getting a therapist is like a job interview. You need to interview at least 4 or 5 to get a good fit. Stop giving up so easy when things aren’t easy. That is why you cheat too. Also, having some patience and humility and realizing this is a process that your partner can take his time working through will be beneficial to you. You did something most people, including myself, would never forgive and would have broken up for good with you. He is giving you a gift you probably don’t deserve so show some respect to his feelings. Get back in therapy after finding a better fit. You two can’t do this alone. It is like trying to cure or manage cancer on your own. There are consequences to your actions. Consequences that don’t magically go away with I’m sorry. If you learn nothing else, learn this. If you can’t be respectful and cognizant for his feelings without reverting to cheating then move on and start divorce proceedings.

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