GF [21F] and me [23M] are becoming passing ships in the night.

I would never break up with this girl if that's what you're suggesting I consider, our relationship is too special. We met on Omegle almost 5 years ago living 800 miles from each other and never thinking we'd meet in person. We texted on and off for several months until we realized we had a lot of similar interests and she wasn't too bad looking... we threw around the joke of meeting each other in the summer but neither one of us had the money. About in May I decided I would sell my Honda ATC 200X that I had performed a complete rebuild on and use the money for train tickets for the upcoming summer. After working on the Honda for months and throwing a ton of money at it to make it run like new I ended up selling it before taking it for a single ride. I took the train 800 miles away, the farthest I've ever traveled, to meet a random girl from the internet. We fell in love the week I stayed there and when I had to leave that was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. It was 6 months until we saw each other again and that's how it went for the next year until she decided to go to college with me. We went through college together and moved from and apartment into a house (with roommate) over the last four years. She suffers from Ulcerative colitis and I've seen her through some road bumps. Two summers ago I quit a landscaping job so I could leave the following night to be with her for a major surgery.

I hate seeing her like this, wasting her free time. Part of me thinks she may feel like she needs to do something when she's home because she got so used to studying every night as students.

I've talked to her about it but she'll only make time for us that day, the next day she's back to her routine.

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