GF wants me to be more assertive and pushy but past experiences have me scared as fuck

If what you're saying is true, then your ex is a liar. She didn't say no when you grabbed her butt, she lied about that. She verbally consented to have sex with you, but now you think her body language was saying no. Okay, so you were one of those not-so-smart people in society who doesn't read body language well. That doesn't make the encounter assault.

You didn't sexually assault shit.

People are going to think I'm Devil himself, but I am a believer of yes means yes UNLESS threatened, such as physical or verbal threats of violence or blackmail, etc. Like, don't question my yes just because I look meek and shy. Why would you question someone's yes unless there are obvious signs, e.g. crying or hyperventilating, etc.

I'm sorry to say this, but at some point, you're just going to have to start trusting people again. If someone wants to start shit, they still can even if you were never assertive or pushy in an encounter. It's called lying.

I'm sorry man.

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