I think this girl is interested in me... what next?

There’s a double-edged sword here.

On one hand, yeah. Totally. It is a place of business. But this isn’t a car dealership or cell phone store. If it was that kind of situation, then I’d completely understand. There’s no commissions (even if you are a licensed piercer,) she literally makes ZERO money being an apprentice at the shop. It’s free work. So I’d call it more the equivalent of hitting it off with the gas station cashier - someone who makes no more or less money (or any money for that matter.) I’m not sure about the laws for it everywhere, but local law is that they can’t get a single dime during the apprenticeship. She’s never touched my piercing, either. She’s just someone I’ve talked to when I’m there. But I do understand your point, and DO agree with the idea of there being “no certain answers.” But, she was right about the potential heavy-hinting. I’m just blind to those things. Someone could possibly wave a flag around with signs written on them and I might need it pointed out if I’m not looking in the right direction. They’ve known me for a long time. I don’t fault them for letting me know their thoughts.

The other hand, I didn’t want to pursue this simply because of the friend’s suggestions. I don’t want to give off that impression WHATSOEVER. My apologies that it came across that way. I want to pursue her for me, I’ve wanted to for me basically since day one... but the idea that there was possibly some positive feedback on the other side made me feel like, “Hey, maybe I could pull the trigger on this!” I’ve seen her at least once a week for 2-3 months and we talk more every time. It’s usually busy and she usually only gets brought back for a piercing if it’s something new or something for her to practice. Otherwise she’s basically hanging out like everybody else.

Regardless, thank you for your POV of the situation. I know that not every situation is the same or clear-cut, but I’m still going to do what I can to see if there’s something there - if anything. This post was a good reality check for how I should look at it if I get shot down, so I do appreciate you taking your time out to share your thoughts on the matter.

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