I'm glad my story was useful :) We were 'long distance' for about two years - in the sense that I didn't quite meet him till much later. He was a family friend but the reasons as to why it didn't happen make up another story. We did hit it off remarkably well in person and saw each other regularly for another two years. We decided to apply to the same medical schools - a move I wasn't entirely in favour of, since he did much better at the UKCAT than I did but still applied to unis that didn't consider it very strongly. Long story short, for some reason, I got in and he did not. It was a difficult and confusing situation for both of us. He chose to go to medical school in my home country and I decided that I would leave. He took the news very badly. He told me he would do anything, that we could work everything out. He was going through a particularly tough time as well, and if there's anything I regret, it's the timing. He told me he'd work on everything that's gone wrong between us, that he'd leave home for me. I considered "weaning off". I still talked to him everyday and we started having a FWB kind of arrangement - in our heads, it was our only way of hanging onto one of the only parts of our relationship that worked. Don't do this. Never do this. Being FWBs with someone that close to you isn't a great idea. It's easier to get used to being alone than to deal with that can of worms (no pun intended). I wish there was something he could have said that changed my mind. The truth is, it would have been cruel in my case to allow us to go on. We were in love, yes, but we were also miserable. Distance would only make it worse, and I didn't want him (or myself) to sacrifice professional goals to make this work, only because we can't really imagine life without each other. That being said, this isn't your situation. You're in the same state and you sound as if you're very committed. Tell her all the changes you're making - and ask her to give you a trial period. Tell her you understand, but you're more than willing to support her in everything. You have no distance and your professions are not the same - the chances that you'll have to make enormous sacrifices career-wise is limited. So go ahead. Talk to her. Tell her everything you told me. I'm positive that attitude should pull through :) And if it doesn't, you'll find that it's not the end of the world. It may feel that way for months, but honestly? It gets better. Good luck ^{^}