I definitely agree with this poster about the ring. The whole expectation that it should be thousands of dollars is ridiculous. It shouldn’t matter how much it costs. 300$ is a perfect price. Personally my engagement ring was like 250$ because my husband wasn’t making a lot of money. He was having money issues, so I bought our wedding rings because I had the money and I don’t think it always has to be the guy. They were 375$ dollars each for a white gold band since my engagement ring is white gold. I didn’t mind that he couldn’t afford it. We also didn’t care if we had a big wedding and actually just eloped at city hall because his immediate family wasn’t supportive ( thankfully his entire extended family was). It was a beautiful day though and he went dress shopping with me ( I didn’t want the typical white dress) so we went to Macy’s and he said he didn’t expect to have fun helping me pick a dress but he did. I wore a white and black really nice cocktail dress and he wore black suit pants and a white dress shirt also from Macy’s. We stayed at the Loews in downtown Chicago the night before and then went out afterwards for a really nice steak dinner at this fancy restaurant. We decided our wedding wasn’t for anyone else but us. We plan on having a wedding with our family and friends after we save up the money. And we stayed at a really nice hotel the night after we got married. The craziest thing happened that I still cannot believe it. We made a reservation at this place called The Dana ( it was one of those spa hotels) weeks in advance. When we got there instead of getting the 400$ room we expected we got the biggest suite ( called the Nirvana suite). It was bigger than our house and we had a huge balcony and it was awesome we got stoned because you could step outside. It was a 4,000$ room. They never charged us more than 400! Our theory is that since we made the reservation awhile in advance that they had booked all the rooms and the only room was the Nirvana suite. It was amazing and I doubt anything like that would ever happen again. You guys need to know your wedding isn’t about fancy destinations or anything it’s about becoming partners in life. She should’ve said she expected something and if you’re having problems premarital counseling is a good option. She definitely shouldn’t be angry at you about this. Also as far as children go definitely make an obgyn appointment. Before you go to counseling try to talk to her. If she expects a fancy ring and fancy destination wedding and you don’t have the money to do one or the other you should talk about it. But really you can get a nice engagement ring for 200-300$. You don’t need to spend thousands on a giant diamond. All that matters is that you guys are happy together. Plus you could use the money you saved on your wedding.