Girlfriends friend made a comment about my gf having an “intact hymen”

A good relationship requires actually saying words to another person.

Yes, I get it - Hollywood has sold us on the idea that a 'good' partner can read our mind somehow, that a 'meant to be' relationship will just happen without any messy emotional work. This is bullshit.

If you want/need your partner to do something, ASK THEM. Sitting back and obliquely hinting at it by mentioning that something else bothered you is, frankly, immature. You expect her to endure the social discomfort of defending you to a third party both in the moment and afterward, when YOU won't even endure the discomfort of talking about it to someone you're dating?

Pull your share of the weight here. You can talk to your partner. You can send your own text. You can do both. Or you can sit and seethe, which will do nothing good for anyone.

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