3. Girls who thought they'd be alone forever: what's your success story?

Girls who thought they'd be alone forever: what's your success story?

I was single for almost 4 years after breaking up with my last ex. We were together for three years on and off. He was the third guy to cheat on me and he was a red pill kind of guy who didn't treat me well and was threatened by my opinions. He made fun of me all the time to me and to his friends. He didn't start out that way though, it was gradual so it took me a while to catch on and a bit longer to get the guts to leave. After leaving he broke into my house and threatened to kill himself if I didn't go back with him. He sent me letters saying that he pleaded to God on my behalf since God would smite me for being so mean to him. He even claimed he talked to God and heard his voice. All through this I was very supportive of him though I wasn't stupid enough to date him again.

Needless to say I was very disillusioned with love and it took me a long time to respect myself and see that I deserved better. I dated a few other guys but they were similar so I just quit dating. I was so scared of meeting another guy like him and every guy after reminded me of him. I was convinced that I was broken and only went after guys who didn't respect me. My dad beat my mom a lot and so I thought if I kept going I would end up like her. After a few years I had made my peace that maybe marriage wasn't for everyone and maybe loving myself was the best thing I could do for myself.

Then one random day a cute and very skinny Asian guy came up to me and made some conversation. We ended up talking for an hour and I said to myself "Why not?" And we exchanged info. On the first date he was so respectful, held doors for me and all the stuff No guy had done for me. He told me he was a virgin and he'd never dated anyone and to my surprise I found it endearing. He was very shy and not super confident but seemed very earnest. He thought I was smart and charming and He loved talking with me and hearing my opinions. He was slow to anger and honest but not rude. I was surprised a guy like him existed. Fast forward to the present and we have been married now for two years.

TL;DR I dated jerks who didn't respect me and thought I only picked bad guys so I'd rather be alone. If made my peace with it when I Randomly met a sweet guy who wasn't my type and we ended up married. He's amazing and I'm happier than I ever thought I would be.

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