Forcing your children to marry someone they do not want to IS HARAM HARAM HARAM AND HARAM! Why cant the asian parents get this into their thick boned cultural heads! They will be leading you into zina! A forceful marriage no matter what nikkah or what ceremony is done is INVALID AND IS ZINA! Your mother is doing what every asian parent does. Play with their children's emotions, force them into marriage then when the marriage fails they cry rivers of alligator tears. Shameful on every level. Show your mother the ahadith that clearly say forceful marriage is haram, show here the consequences of a forceful marriage, show her the sins SHE will be putting you through.