It took two years and four opinions (two psychiatrists, one therapist and one general practitioner) for someone to suggest ADHD-PI

Before that, they suggested or diagnosed me with depression, generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder and sensory sensitivities

I would get another opinion and also (just in case) make sure that you’re describing your symptoms as clearly as you can. Before every psych appt - but especially before an intake appt to make sure I don’t leave anything out or forget anything - I write down bullet points of my symptoms, real life examples of when these symptoms affected me, my concerns and my experiences with previous meds

Good luck. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself when necessary or seek multiple opinions. You can even ask a psych before booking an appt if they have experience with women with ADHD