That is fair, however I just got out of a 6 year long relationship (my first relationship) and I was very overweight, unstylish, and generally unattractive. Since then I lost 50+ lbs, started lifting, dressing stylishly, and I am now at a point where women who would never even look at me before and coming up and hitting on me.

So while I do want to find a partner, I have never really done a ONS, I have never really had women’s attention like I do now. My therapist recommended I put myself out there and try to meet new people and get into situations that put me out of my comfort zone, so I went with it.

I had a good time with the ONS, they were very attractive and fun, but I am mostly just looking for a relationship. But that is my fault, my actions do have consequences.